The international job market will test more and more relationships in the years to come, so the information from the Cornell study is heartening.
But the positive aspects of long-distance all seem to be based on how little couples see one another.
I find this is especially true towards the end of a visit when you want to savor every moment, memorize every freckle on the other person’s face — any memory you can cling to until the next visit.
According to the study, long-distance lovers were also more accepting of their partners’ behaviors and felt more committed to each other.
If we reach a point, like in Her, where we can be connected to our partner at all times through an earpiece like the one Theodore Twombly wears or — more realistically — through messaging and social media, the benefits of being apart may be lost.
Video cameras and phones can’t always capture laughter, smirks or sighs of frustration.
Of course there are ways technology has made long distance relationships much more manageable.
I can call my boyfriend every day without having to worry about massive phone bills.
That unfortunately means more geographically-challenged relationships. They planned visits around their separate lives, probably in a Google Cal — another modern invention that’s made relationships simpler. A study from Cornell published in June found that couples in long-distance relationships feel more intimate with their partners than those who live in the same area.
They value what little time they have together — during visits or over the phone — so greatly that they optimize those moments emotionally.