Accommodate can also refer to providing housing or having enough space for something.You might need to open up the extra bedroom to accommodate your out-of-town guests.
When I reflect back on my life and my various relationships -- with men, with friends, with family, and even with some co-workers, I can now see how being "too nice" was my way of staying safe, of avoiding conflict, and of remaining emotionally intact.
When I brought these survival techniques into my adulthood though, they were no longer effective, because in order to develop a truly intimate relationship with another human being, one needs to actually show up to the party.
One of my favorite Cheryl Strayed quotes is: "Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren't a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was." I have very strong connections with others, and I deeply value longevity, loyalty and love.
I learned early in life to create a safe place where my true self could exist, without any external threats.
This coping mechanism served me well in my childhood, where asserting any aspect of my true and unique self was seen as an attack and a sign of betrayal.